I treat myself like I would my daughter. I brush her hair, wash her laundry, tuck her in goodnight. Most importantly, I feed her. I do not punish her. I do not berate her, leave tears staining her face. I do not leave her alone. I know she deserves more.
I know I deserve more.

Michelle K., I Know I Deserve More (via cageofstars)

Something I wish I had…

(Source: michellekpoems, via internal-acceptance-movement)

I guess I need to learn & praCtiCe tHis…seems like I Can’t be too desperate and I’d need to approaCH it tHe same way I would approaCH a serious relationsHip…wHere you need to be patient in order to find one tHat’ll be wortH it to Create, grow, & deVelop.

I guess I need to learn & praCtiCe tHis…seems like I Can’t be too desperate and I’d need to approaCH it tHe same way I would approaCH a serious relationsHip…wHere you need to be patient in order to find one tHat’ll be wortH it to Create, grow, & deVelop.

contralateral:

ckrys:

contralateral:

"you do not have to be pretty if you don’t want to. it is not your job." - caitlyn siehl

I love the message of the caption. But I feel that it, when paired with this photo, is implying that if you have short-or no-hair, you can’t be pretty and that just isn’t the case. 
Lots of folks think that way which is why there are five year old girls, and their mama’s walking around with weaves in their head. that bothers me. 

i do agree that it comes across this way (implying that short/no hair cannot be pretty), and i definitely realize how it came across as problematic - thanks for pointing that out and addressing it, because it is something i also wanted to point out as i watched this post explode over tumblr. my captioning of the photo was more personal and less clear in terms of what it meant for me - i captioned it that way after having read caitlyn siehl’s poem “it is not your job” and having a part of it resonate with my experience of hair/queerness in/on my asian body, and i didn’t expect my personal instagram photo and the associated caption to have such a far reaching audience. 
when i let my hair grow out, i received compliments from my family and social circle based on my long, straight, black, asian hair. saying that i planned on shaving it off resulted in many responses along the lines of “but it’s so pretty! you look so pretty this way.” and that irked me, that i apparently couldn’t be pretty otherwise, and ALSO that i was expected to fulfill a “prettiness” requirement in the first place. 
captioning this photo the way i did, with just this one line from the poem, addresses the second point but not so much the first, which i wish could’ve been communicated  - unfortunately it doesn’t quite get all of that across! which started to bother me the more attention this post got (the “but wait! there’s more to it!” sort of feeling), and which i really wanted to address. because shaving your hair off or cutting it short certainly doesn’t mean you can’t be “pretty”. it’s also not for everyone, which i respect. nor is the expectation of prettiness a standard that everyone desires to uphold, either. 
do what you want with your hair. get a weave if you want to, shave it off if you want to, dye it all the colours you like, keep it exactly the way it is if that’s what you want to do with it. so long as you enjoy yourself the best you can. 


My exact thoughts. Maybe I am the type that I want to feel “pretty;” but that is “pretty for myself,” not “pretty to impress others.” I get pissed off when I do something with myself that my family doesn’t approve of, and they constantly have to criticize on it. Recent example is my hair color from the ginger gold brown to the jet black I have now. If I gave a shit on any of their opinions I would’ve asked first if I should’ve done it and if it would look good on me, right? And if they’d approve of it. But no, I simply don’t give a shit. Because it is my hair, my body, my life. Now gtfo and worry about your own. I’m pretty sure back in their day they hated having their families control & criticize things they do, now simply don’t even pass on that shit. You don’t see me telling y’all what to do with yourselves now, do you? Hm? Despite there is so much shit I seriously do disapprove of that you do. But hey, it’s your fuckin’ lives. If you wanna waste it, be my guest. But this life is mine, get out of the way & stop trying to control it.

contralateral:

ckrys:

contralateral:

"you do not have to be pretty if you don’t want to. it is not your job." - caitlyn siehl

I love the message of the caption. But I feel that it, when paired with this photo, is implying that if you have short-or no-hair, you can’t be pretty and that just isn’t the case. 

Lots of folks think that way which is why there are five year old girls, and their mama’s walking around with weaves in their head. that bothers me. 

i do agree that it comes across this way (implying that short/no hair cannot be pretty), and i definitely realize how it came across as problematic - thanks for pointing that out and addressing it, because it is something i also wanted to point out as i watched this post explode over tumblr. 

my captioning of the photo was more personal and less clear in terms of what it meant for me - i captioned it that way after having read caitlyn siehl’s poem “it is not your job” and having a part of it resonate with my experience of hair/queerness in/on my asian body, and i didn’t expect my personal instagram photo and the associated caption to have such a far reaching audience.

when i let my hair grow out, i received compliments from my family and social circle based on my long, straight, black, asian hair. saying that i planned on shaving it off resulted in many responses along the lines of “but it’s so pretty! you look so pretty this way.” and that irked me, that i apparently couldn’t be pretty otherwise, and ALSO that i was expected to fulfill a “prettiness” requirement in the first place.

captioning this photo the way i did, with just this one line from the poem, addresses the second point but not so much the first, which i wish could’ve been communicated  - unfortunately it doesn’t quite get all of that across! which started to bother me the more attention this post got (the “but wait! there’s more to it!” sort of feeling), and which i really wanted to address. because shaving your hair off or cutting it short certainly doesn’t mean you can’t be “pretty”. it’s also not for everyone, which i respect. nor is the expectation of prettiness a standard that everyone desires to uphold, either. 

do what you want with your hair. get a weave if you want to, shave it off if you want to, dye it all the colours you like, keep it exactly the way it is if that’s what you want to do with it. so long as you enjoy yourself the best you can. 

My exact thoughts. Maybe I am the type that I want to feel “pretty;” but that is “pretty for myself,” not “pretty to impress others.” I get pissed off when I do something with myself that my family doesn’t approve of, and they constantly have to criticize on it. Recent example is my hair color from the ginger gold brown to the jet black I have now. If I gave a shit on any of their opinions I would’ve asked first if I should’ve done it and if it would look good on me, right? And if they’d approve of it. But no, I simply don’t give a shit. Because it is my hair, my body, my life. Now gtfo and worry about your own. I’m pretty sure back in their day they hated having their families control & criticize things they do, now simply don’t even pass on that shit. You don’t see me telling y’all what to do with yourselves now, do you? Hm? Despite there is so much shit I seriously do disapprove of that you do. But hey, it’s your fuckin’ lives. If you wanna waste it, be my guest. But this life is mine, get out of the way & stop trying to control it.

(via internal-acceptance-movement)

I feel most people’s sexuality is enormously complicated. That’s what it means to be human. Wouldn’t it be great if we honored that complexity rather than turn it into gossip or ridicule? Wouldn’t it be great if we accepted sexual diversity, in ourselves and others, without condemning it?

- Janet Jackson (Essence Magazine, 2001)

Babygirl knows whats up!

(via cuntbarf)

(Source: itspaidaa, via internal-acceptance-movement)

Me: seriously though its time to pull my shit together
Me 7 months later: seriously though its time to pull my shit together

Can never sleep.

Every night I try to go to sleep I’m always in my head beating myself up about something.

Right now I’m mentally fighting in my head about why is it that I have no luck in making friends in the real world. It’s like even when I try it’s like I suck at it cos it’s not like these people really give a crap. I don’t “attract” people to be my friend like …most people do…

The one guy who does just possibly even wants to “be my friend” in the motive that he wants me as more than just a friend. Which fucking kills me cos how come such a cool guy has to be so desperate for love and approach it the wrong way ON TOP OF THAT having me as his target…he’s cool & all but comes off as a total douchebag which is exactly the type of male friends that psh I wouldn’t even wanna bother friending.

I don’t push people away, but should I do that to make friends or does that make matters worse?
Because someone else I know does that and somehow seems to be making lots of friends at the job…
I have no one to really hang with or socialize at work. Have a bonding with. I never get people like that and it makes me feel like something is totally wrong with me which is the reason why I don’t make friends.

Who is actually interested out of the people who I don’t know but who do know my significant other or my friends, in even actually knowing anything about or getting to know me? Who I am and why we are mutually connected?

No one. Of course.
It’s like I’m nothing special.


130616 Inkigayo (Comeback Stage)



Oh Hyorin. I love you. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I feel like I’ve seen a goddess when I saw this pic. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
130616 Inkigayo (Comeback Stage)

Oh Hyorin. I love you. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

I feel like I’ve seen a goddess when I saw this pic. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

(Source: sistarontop, via hyottie89)

Ohmygad.

People seriously too dramatic nowadays.

You point out what someone’s doing wrong and then suddenly they turn the tables on you as if you were the one doing wrong lmfao.

Seriously? LOL

What a day I have had so far.
Guess you can really say my day was “made” totally by this.

It’s funny because I hate when people use sickness and shit as an excuse to do or say whatever the fuck they want.

Please. We all live in this world with the same hardships. I’ve went through shit but you don’t see me crying saying “oh I went through this I went through that so please justify my actions if I’m ever a bitch or anything.”

LOL. THE WORLD DOESN’T WORK THAT WAY. The world revolves around NO ONE so people need to stop thinking they need to be treated all special and shit. Especially when they themselves are the ones making themselves look like an ass in the first place.

WHICH IS WHY. I FUCKING APPLY THIS RULE TO MY LIFE.
“TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE FUCKING TREATED.”
PERIOD.

Good fucking night.

Ignorance is bliss for those who LOVE to be stupid & be treated with it right back.

I must be stupid.

To forgive someone I’ve totally pre-overreacted about.

Just because in the end I tend to try and understand the reasons behind their actions and gestures rather than always assuming (which I do BEFORE I actually try to analyze…) that there is a motive.

Always trying to weigh in the good in people rather than the bad..

Ugh golden heart of mine..you put me into too many dilemmas and numerous feelings of guilt…

People make it sound so much easier…

…& conveniently better to just date your own kind… Kind of puts me back again in an insecure state…

I’m still wrong….

…no matter what I do.

Not even.

Whatever shit you go through, don’t even fucking take it out on me. I don’t do that kinda shit to you so fuck off doing it to me.

When my godfather passed away I dealt with that shit on my own, with support from my boyfriend of course, but with or without that support, doesn’t mean I’d go around taking my anger or sadness on other people. Wtf is with you people loving to do that?

And then asking for apologies and forgiveness later on. What? Not like it’s my fault it happened nor did I do shit in the first place to get attitude just randomly thrown at me.

Get outta here with that…